In the Fourth Way, knowledge goes hand in hand with verification. Knowledge can be given, but verification is only earned through payment. In this tutorial, we will go deeper into the principle of payment; we will weave it into the non-expression of negative emotions; and view the effort of non-expression of negative emotions as a form of payment. We will draw from the Biblical story of the hospitality of Abraham, a symbolic expression of the need of sacrifice to receive the present on its own terms. And we will see that resisting the expression of negative emotions is a fundamental payment in this work.

Responses

  1. Yazmin Moreno

    My “normal tendency” is always to find how the things I’m living can turn to the negative side. At least now, it’s easier for me to notice that, but I can’t find the way to stop them. I’ve tried to focus on my breathing, focus on one part of my body or just change internally the topic, all of them work for a short time, right after I return to these “negative fantasies”.
    Lately, I just let them go and try do not attach more feelings, I just let them continue with their way, and eventually they gone. Sometimes they don’t left me bad physical sensations, but others they do.
    How to be more aware to stop this?

    1. Hicham B.

      Hi Yazmin,
      I used to have the same attitude and sometimes still do.
      To m experience, Work on a daily basis at the moment level will change that. Moreover, trying not to face the issue as a whole is necessary. For instance, I try not to express my negativity in a certain situation only, then when I’m done with it I move to another (i.e. small aims).
      Now to answer your question, Self-remembering is the key! Your aim is to stop negativity but you forget that and we all do. One way to counter this is to take one small aim and attach an “alarm” to it.
      Please update about your progress.

  2. Barbara S F Davis

    In the 1970s I had a sign on the inside of my back door. It was a quote from G. in the Psychological Commentaries: “Avoid the expression of unpleasant emotion.”

    There was an I which knew the truth strongly enough to put up the sign.

    Recently there was a big temptation to become negative with a friend who was critical and rejecting. I have refrained from expressing anything negative to her; have kept a lot of inner silence. I thought I was just tired! But the Work is surely working on me.

    I am grateful for the beperiod.com post I saw on facebook today, leading me here and reminding me that I must pay. “First the work and then the rest,” as another Teacher says.

  3. rahşan

    I still need to come back to this video over and over again. It was the most inspiring one but I am sure I’m missing something. It is the difference between suppressing and non-expression. Suppressing is my habit. It is definitely not non-expression. I just cannot unlock the difference.

    1. Asaf Braverman Post author

      Rahsan, with non-expression, the negativity remains but we are able not to call it ‘I’. Suppression is an attempt to ignore the negativity, pretend it isn’t there or never happened. If, while you catch yourself negative, you make efforts to sense yourself as separate from the emotions, then you will get a taste of this.

  4. rahşan

    I usually practice “All are games of God” attitude but with strong emotions, negativity leaves a bitter taste which I understand that it is not “separation”. Then I question myself if I dream of “working on myself” because I experienced that I should not trust my mind strongly that it has many tricks to continue my sleep. In this subject I question “Am I taking suppression as non-expression?” which the answer may be “Yes”. Or maybe it is my first assumption which is wrong. Can I feel the bitter taste or pain even if I start practicing separation from the emotions? Or is it just a degree of separation? Or..Or am I dreaming of working?

    1. Orazio Sorgonà

      When do us separate, i.e. non express? we can do it just instant by instant.
      One instant you do, the next you are already dreaming.

      We learn by repated effort to observe and not express, what is expression and what onexpression.
      Yet it’s not complicated! Ouspensky said that we always know when we lie, just (the machine) can’t help it.