The avenues through which we are accustomed to expel sex energy form our "habits." These are "I"s fueled by a particularly strong energy, which means they come with a stronger sense of identity, a stronger sense of "I." In other words, from the point of view of our aim to avoid Identification, to "Be," they are particularly difficult groups of "I"s.

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  1. Asaf Braverman Post author

    The moving center eliminates sex energy through unnecessary haste. Let us set the aim this week to observe unnecessary haste and pull against it. In which areas do you catch yourself habitually in a hurry? Are you able to pull against that unnecessary haste and use the discomfort to Be?

  2. jack

    Asaf, this is a great exercise for me. I tend to move too quickly and as a result i either, lose things, become upset, or drop something and it may break, like a dish. I do need to slow down as my aim. Thank you for this tutorial.

    1. Asaf Braverman Post author

      I’m glad to hear you can relate to it, and encourage you to use the fact that the community will be focusing on it in the coming week as motivation to make more effort. And if you make any useful observations, please share them with us below.

  3. Dean Whittingham

    I have observed a tendency to be in haste when describing something to someone when the subject matter of what I am describing is something I am still not convinced of myself and am in a sense trying to sell the idea to another in the hope that once accepted it will enable me to feel convinced of the idea. To struggle against this is extremely difficult because it requires me to stop talking by letting go of the need to feel convinced.

    On the flip side, when I am trying to solve a problem in words (i.e. I am writing a document and trying to formulate the words which have the most effect) I have found that unless I slow myself down and watch for unnecessary haste and muscle tension that I will find myself with a mind of confusion. I must confess that whether or not this is a reality, it does feel that when I am in a sense of relaxation and awareness, that what then flows from me always seems to be what it is I needed, and yet, does not actually come from me – as if coming from a higher source – and yet it also feels as though this higher source only gives out what it is I needed after I have put myself through much struggle prior.

    It is obviously important for me to transform more of this struggle to open conversations with others, as this does seem a lot harder than when simply writing a letter or other document because there is more time available in the latter situation

    1. Evgueni Z

      Interesting observation about describing something that I’m not sure about myself. I can relate to that. In my case, it’s usually my lack of knowledge on the subject. I then try to overcome my ignorance with an increased flow of words, haste, and overly confident tone.

    2. Jill M.

      Hello Dean and Evgueni,

      Both of you have shared observations very helpful to me about the tendency to speak in haste. I notice this in myself. In myself, I think, that at least part of the ‘feeling the need to speak quickly’ comes from ‘inner considering’ – not wanting to take up too much space/time, and also fear of being interrupted – if I make a pause in order to collect my thoughts, or keep them collected, then the someone else will jump in and hijack what I am trying to say.

      Also, when I speak in haste, I am more likely to ‘lie’ – in the work sense of the word. What in me is speaking in haste is not ‘presence’.

      It could be worthwhile to remember to notice when others are speaking quickly – first, can I even keep my attention on what is being said, and notice any inconsistencies, etc., and if I can come to presence while the person is talking, and externally consider, will this help the other person slow down, maybe even deepen or change what they are trying to say?

      It can be very helpful to find a group of people who are willing to meet together for a work exchange, even over Skype, with the accepted ‘rule’ that each person be allowed to speak without interruption until they signal they are finished. This can lead to a very thoughtful and meaningful exchange.

  4. Lazaros Lazarakis

    Working as a profesional cook under stressing conditions and surrounded by nervous and overanxious machines this great exercise brings my uderstanding on new fields:using it as a reminder into the battlefield of the kitchen I catch my biomachine full of excess adrenaline running in my blood and the Jacks of the centers in uncontrolled operation mode.So my effort begins:try to use the kings of the centers and establish the neutral observation…the stability of the microcosmos is recovering and precious vital energy is recollected for the Work!I.e. also I can operate more effectively into my profesional role with better emotional attitude on my collragues.Thank you Asaf…waiting for new and fresh spiritual food from Beperiod!

  5. John

    This post is somewhat puzzling to me. I’ve spent considerable effort in establishing “good habits” which I don’t want to discard. Even when involved with one, I carry it out consciously. That’s not to say that I don’t lose consciousness during the activity but when aware that I have been distracted, I get back to it. While I see the extremes attributed to the sexual center enhancing activities, I don’t understand why enthusiasm for and during an activity needs to be curbed.

    1. Asaf Braverman Post author

      Enthusiasm doesn’t necessarily need to be curbed. Watch for misplaced enthusiasm and question it. Do I have to be typing on my keyboard quickly and firmly right now? Can I slightly lighten the press of my fingers on each key to invite more awareness and reduce identification? The same holds true for speaking, eating, walking, etc.

      1. Kathleen

        Recognizing and reducing identification with feelings of enthusiasm is difficult for me. I know the more identified I am with external things.. the more it can lead to disappointment very quickly. Using the right energies in the right centers may help?? Thanks John and Asaf for your insights.

  6. Evgueni Z

    I very often find myself a “hurry of thinking”. While involved in a particular activity, my mind tends to jump to the next item of my agenda. First, it gets me out of the current moment so I don’t live in now, but rather in some imaginary future. Second, cyclical thoughts about plentiful variations of the future event are energy draining.

      1. Marcella Berardi

        In “The Letter to his daughter” Gurdjief told her to finish always what she began. This warning is just right for me because the most of my thoughts are overcome by the next that prevent them to be concluded in an endless run. Actually I thought to the haste like a way to do pratical activities,but now I see that the intellectual and the emotional functions are influenced by the haste ad well.

        1. Asaf Braverman Post author

          Thanks, Marcella, for pointing out that haste extends beyond physical functions. A good example that can be verified right here and right now is reading through the list of these comments. If done in haste, the comment isn’t really digested before we move on to another. What is each person actually trying to say? What does it mean to me? A pause is needed after each comment to consider these things, just like a pause is required between bites in order to properly digest food.

  7. Paul Chadwick

    I was aware of my unnecessary tension in my body, a number of times during the day. Noticed and very aware of the tendency to want to ‘devour’ my food (consciously struggled with this), sensed the emotional flavor of impatience, sort of frenetic type of energy. also sensed in my mind with planning (but different feel to it more akin to the feel in my body) also when i was doing dishes the noticed that with this ‘wrong energy’ there was a tendency to be less thorough and to skip necessary steps. i know i went on and included mostly the other centers, i just find this a very useful study.

    1. Asaf Braverman Post author

      Glad to hear you find this a useful study, Paul. The aim we’d set was to pull against unnecessary haste and use the discomfort to Be. That you could make the observations you mention above shows that by mere pulling, consciousness occurred. The light turned on and you could see.

      That said, it may require a little more effort to prolong this seeing and avoid falling back to haste a moment later. When you see yourself skipping steps in some repetitive activity, remind yourself that “Anything worth doing is worth doing well.” This will invite more attention, which will require slowing down, which will help sustain consciousness.

  8. Alen

    Observing and stopping unnecessary haste has given me the possibility to taste the difference between Mechanical and Automatic attention.
    Dressing Myself hastily in the morning I Observe Myself. The act of Observing gives rise to a state in which I can actually see that this haste is unnecessary. Before I was taken by some small identification in the Thinking Center. This prompted My Moving Center to make haste as a result of one center overlapping another.
    What was before done with mechanical attention totally taken by identification, now can be done automatically; but with a grain of Presence. This same Presence gives the possibility to differentiate Mechanical from Automatic.
    Before I always Thought that I should dress Myself with My head only, but that is actually Thinking center taking the role of Moving.
    Besides seeing the difference in Mechanical and Automatic attention, this exercise gave me the Material to see that I try to make many things in the Work Intellectually only. Thinking about Working and doing the Work of each center with my Head, gave the illusion that I Am Working.
    Now I get a taste of the phrase that Presence is silent and without word.

  9. Hicham B.

    After my graduation I found myself without a job and without any activity. It was terrible, especially at the beginning, to stay calm without doing anything. So, I find myself doing useless things. Going to the same places over and over again, taking online courses, reading this and that. It’s a terrible feeling for the machine.
    Now, when I feel anxious about my current social situation I feel the need to do something. It is as if trying to escape the present!

  10. Marlene

    Oddly enough the haste I deal with is in regards to the fear of not being good enough. I must always try to be better.
    And with that mind set comes judgement of others. Something I have been working on.
    The haste being the concern of personal standing robbing me from self. Manifesting through use of my person energy in a wasteful fashion versus finding a center.

  11. Dallas

    Hi Asaf, I observe haste in making my children do things rather than in what I do. But my wife observes my constant need to be doing something, and tells me to just relax (or just BE). So I am learning to just be in the moment, not having to accomplish anything, and being comfortable with myself and my family in the moment.

  12. MarisaM

    I noticed that I was writing an email in haste and then I wondered if my comment was important at all for anyone. I took this moment to pull back from writing and making a comment. I noticed that my energies were being directed to the email and to making a comment. I felt the ” being pull ” part in the direction of the concern. I also felt that this need to write was a distraction to my other aims of the day. When I stopped I noticed I could breathe better and for that particular moment I was free.

  13. Lee Warren

    This practice is one of the best I have in my tool box. Once when I sensed inner anxiety, which had not been present for a long time, I realized I was rushing to put away laundry and bothered because I really wanted to get to my spiritual reading and practice. Too funny. The laundry was my practice and when I drew my attention inward, to the organization of the drawers it became delightful. I reorganized every dresser in my house! My gate also helps me regain focus. I try to always move through the house feeling my feet. If I can slow them down, the body follows suit.